2008 was the year of rocky relationships, no?

[King_V]

It seems everyone around me whos been together for years have all split this year. My relationship hit an all time low in the autumn, don't really know how we pulled it together lol.

Whos relationships have been rocky this year? Know any long term relations thats ended?

[Paj!]

My last relationship ended with police intervention.














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[nightwolf]

It does seem like, although maybe the dumpers just banded together and decided to be incredibly nasty to their other halves at the time.

Who knows, but it sucks and let's go drinking instead!

[King_V]

My last relationship ended with police intervention.














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LMAO... That guy is living out the dreams of so many twisted men.

[Raining_again]

It does seem like, although maybe the dumpers just banded together and decided to be incredibly nasty to their other halves at the time.

Who knows, but it sucks and let's go drinking instead!

Its a conspiracy I say!! o_O

For me, rocky friendships perhaps, bit lacking in the "relationship" department.

[Dante]

LMAO... That guy is living out the dreams of so many twisted men.

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[Dannyboy-the-Dane]

Well, I started my first real relationship less than a month ago, and it ended this Friday. I learned a lot about myself, though, it was great while it lasted, and we remain friends, so no regrets or hard feelings.

[Fierce_LiNk]

Hmm, I wouldn't strictly limit this to just 2008. I think eeeeevery year has to feature some kind of rocky relationship or friendship for me. If not, then, I think I fail the year or something.

This year saw the great farce that was me and my ex-housemate. That actually ticked two boxes, as the great friendship and then relationship was ruined in one swoop.

As for everyone else, I think the opposite is happening. People seem to be pairing up. I'm slowly becoming the single one in my friendship group. But, I live by this Never Say Die attitude. Sooner or later, it'll all work out, in the way that only fate or the almighty can make it happen. I've got someone very special in my life at the moment, so we'll see what happens with that. So, you just put your effort into that, try and make it work.

But, life is pretty dandy for others. I can't say I've seen many break-ups at all. Now, 2006, THAT was the year. I think anyway.

[ReZourceman]

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Actually, shes legal. Seriously.

[tapedeck]

Actually, shes legal. Seriously.

That's what she told me too!! : peace:

yeah, I had the shittest relationship year in a long time. Or ever!
But... it doesn't seem too bad in retrospect lol

[Ten10]

Yup mine went south, but won't be long until someone else comes along, I think 2009 will be much kinder to me. But despite what happened I'm a better person today because of it, and in regards to my former lady: No worries here (http://pown.it/399)

[Fierce_LiNk]

Yup mine went south, but won't be long until someone else comes along, I think 2009 will be much kinder to me. But despite what happened I'm a better person today because of it, and in regards to my former lady: No worries here (http://pown.it/399)

Heh, I thought the same last year. Like, "oh, next year will be the year!"

Bring on the next disappointment. Sorry, I meant...woman.

[nightwolf]

lol I say every year it'll be better and without sounding too negative it's just gotten worse and worse.

Nothing beats 2006 though..sigh

[Fierce_LiNk]

lol I say every year it'll be better and without sounding too negative it's just gotten worse and worse.

Nothing beats 2006 though..sigh

2006 weren't bad, I guess.

But, I dunno, is it just me or is it just harder to get into a relationship now? If I were to evaluate myself, I wouldn't know what I'm doing wrong half the time, and I do think I'm always trying hard and also being realistic.

I think there's something in the female brain which just over-complicates things.

[Ten10]

Heh, I thought the same last year. Like, "oh, next year will be the year!"

Bring on the next disappointment. Sorry, I meant...woman.

Well I'm not expecting any happy go lucky sunshine style stuff. But the lack of a new disappointment at the moment is probably a good thing. Things have been looking up for me ever since, as for the ex, things are getting worse and worse but not my problem I guess.

[Rummy]

Hmm, I wouldn't strictly limit this to just 2008. I think eeeeevery year has to feature some kind of rocky relationship or friendship for me. If not, then, I think I fail the year or something.

This year saw the great farce that was me and my ex-housemate. That actually ticked two boxes, as the great friendship and then relationship was ruined in one swoop.

As for everyone else, I think the opposite is happening. People seem to be pairing up. I'm slowly becoming the single one in my friendship group. But, I live by this Never Say Die attitude. Sooner or later, it'll all work out, in the way that only fate or the almighty can make it happen. I've got someone very special in my life at the moment, so we'll see what happens with that. So, you just put your effort into that, try and make it work.

But, life is pretty dandy for others. I can't say I've seen many break-ups at all. Now, 2006, THAT was the year. I think anyway.

What happened there then? I don't recall hearing, but that's gotta suck major ass. Losing a friend AND a relationship both in one fell swoop is just, urgh, damn. Totally agree with your post though, it's summing up exactly how I'm feeling alot lately. On the situation of other people I know...well nah, nothing too major in the breakups front.
As for me, well, I had a weird one over the summer, getting involved with a girl who was all fucked up, and wasn't after love or long term, yet hated me cos I was pointing out it would all go wrong eventually then? She told me if I say it then it'll happen blahblahblah, but then wham! It did, she found another guy and I was gone in a moment. She also decided not to be my friend either, because I'd said if it happened that I'd want her to dissappear for a while, and now she hates me or some shit and I'm still confused on so many counts but on the whole, fucking glad I'm shot of her and the stress of it all. Can't stop it still being part of me now though, which is a shame.
I was a bit in that frame of mind where you end up looking for the next thing, filling the void, but I decided it was a bad path, and so I'm kind of in the same mindset as Flink, it'll all work out soon, just let it roll its course.

I think there's something in the female brain which just over-complicates things.

There is, it's the female bit :heh:

[nightwolf]

2006 weren't bad, I guess.

But, I dunno, is it just me or is it just harder to get into a relationship now? If I were to evaluate myself, I wouldn't know what I'm doing wrong half the time, and I do think I'm always trying hard and also being realistic.

I think there's something in the female brain which just over-complicates things.

2006 was one of the worst years of my life to date.

The issue is females look at something from every angle. Men don't tend to do this. Hence arguments.

[tapedeck]

2006 weren't bad, I guess.

But, I dunno, is it just me or is it just harder to get into a relationship now? If I were to evaluate myself, I wouldn't know what I'm doing wrong half the time, and I do think I'm always trying hard and also being realistic.

I think there's something in the female brain which just over-complicates things.

I think half the time women are so obsessed with men being bastards that it's bloody difficult to be "nice" or genuine as a lot women are thinking "I know what you're after..."

I'm also finding that you have to be some kind of ideal Disney Prince to get anywhere yet the women can be cruel bastards and it's ok. Because it's there 'turn' or sommat. Mind you, I live in the North East where women can be so full on it's frightening...

[Paj!]

Actually, shes legal. Seriously.

To us realistic Brits, but not to the americanos.

[Fierce_LiNk]

This is going to be one fothermucka of a post, so here goes...

Well I'm not expecting any happy go lucky sunshine style stuff. But the lack of a new disappointment at the moment is probably a good thing. Things have been looking up for me ever since, as for the ex, things are getting worse and worse but not my problem I guess.

Heh, maybe it's Karma. Although, it would be nice if things did go suddenly all rosie in the garden, wouldn't it?

What happened there then? I don't recall hearing, but that's gotta suck major ass. Losing a friend AND a relationship both in one fell swoop is just, urgh, damn. Totally agree with your post though, it's summing up exactly how I'm feeling alot lately. On the situation of other people I know...well nah, nothing too major in the breakups front.
As for me, well, I had a weird one over the summer, getting involved with a girl who was all fucked up, and wasn't after love or long term, yet hated me cos I was pointing out it would all go wrong eventually then? She told me if I say it then it'll happen blahblahblah, but then wham! It did, she found another guy and I was gone in a moment. She also decided not to be my friend either, because I'd said if it happened that I'd want her to dissappear for a while, and now she hates me or some shit and I'm still confused on so many counts but on the whole, fucking glad I'm shot of her and the stress of it all. Can't stop it still being part of me now though, which is a shame.
I was a bit in that frame of mind where you end up looking for the next thing, filling the void, but I decided it was a bad path, and so I'm kind of in the same mindset as Flink, it'll all work out soon, just let it roll its course.



There is, it's the female bit :heh:

Well, long story short: She was my housemate, and we were best mates for a while, too. Then, suddenly this one night, she comes onto me heavily and tells me she loves me. Problem was, she was with somebody else at the time. It was an awful situation to be in, and I feel so angry at myself for letting her have power over me. Thing is, I told her lots of personal things, and I felt like I could trust her, and I was still in a non-stable state after the events of last year. So, I'm pretty angry that she put me through all that, but I'm really glad she's outta my life now.



2006 was one of the worst years of my life to date.

The issue is females look at something from every angle. Men don't tend to do this. Hence arguments.

2006 was good, I think. Until the end of December, and then onwards through to the next year was a hell. I'm glad I'm outta there now.

Hmm, I guess so. But, do they over-analyse? I think sometimes you just have to go for broke, or just go that little bit further, and I think men are more inclined to do that than girls?

I think half the time women are so obsessed with men being bastards that it's bloody difficult to be "nice" or genuine as a lot women are thinking "I know what you're after..."

I'm also finding that you have to be some kind of ideal Disney Prince to get anywhere yet the women can be cruel bastards and it's ok. Because it's there 'turn' or sommat. Mind you, I live in the North East where women can be so full on it's frightening...

You know mate, that first bit is spot on.

Actually, so's that second. Where have you been all my life?!

[The fish]

I had two relationships fall through, but hey, it happens. My sister just broke up with her long term boyfriend, mind you, which was a bit shit.

Oddly, two couples I pretty much set up have gone through their 1st and 2nd anniversaries in the last few months.

[King_V]

Well, I started my first real relationship less than a month ago, and it ended this Friday. I learned a lot about myself, though, it was great while it lasted, and we remain friends, so no regrets or hard feelings.

I'm sorry to hear that my friend...

This was the year I also had my first real relationship... And we hit the rocks probably a bit too often. Problem was I'm quite sensitive and (uh) emotional and shes entirely the opposite. So her 'lack' of emotion and my deeper emotions were like fire and water coming together. Plus we're both stubborn, so back then if she didn't call, I wouldn't call and vice versa. Was generally the little things that just escalated into something it shouldn't be.

When things hit the fan (ie her not picking up the phone at such critical stages), I broke up with her via text for about a week in October. But after we've reconciled it really feels like we're on a greater stage relationship-wise and would do anything to make the relationship cruise steadily. But lord, its still unbeleivable how we've managed to do it... These weren't just rocks, but flipping jagged edged glaciers!

(Though of course, counting the 'epic' event, it may just be my best year... But thats subjective :p)

But my best friends like 7 year relationship (since year10), came to an end this year. Two of my other friends divorced, and about 3 more are constantly on and off... Crazy year.

[tapedeck]

The issue is females look at something from every angle. Men don't tend to do this. Hence arguments.

But don't women tend to change their "angles" on a monthly basis. Hmmm, maybe that's a biological thing though!
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Pet peeve: When women use their monthly's as an excuse to MAIM MEN!

[King_V]

yeah, I had the shittest relationship year in a long time. Or ever!
But... it doesn't seem too bad in retrospect lol

Even though I'm more of the quieter, less connected members of this forum... Going through what you did... I have loads of respect for you and only wish you the best.

[tapedeck]

You know mate, that first bit is spot on.

Actually, so's that second. Where have you been all my life?!

I'm right here f you ever need me. The king of breakups lol. That's the ONE thing I have going for me! :yay:

Cheers King_V. Everyone's support and guidance in that dark, dark moment has really enabled me to move on with my life and be a stronger person.

[nightwolf]

But don't women tend to change their "angles" on a monthly basis. Hmmm, maybe that's a biological thing though!
:blank:

Pet peeve: When women use their monthly's as an excuse to MAIM MEN!

They do indeed.

I don't understand this whole monthlys thing, I don't change for that, maybe I'm the odd one in the bunch!

But less bashing of either sex!

[tapedeck]

They do indeed.

I don't understand this whole monthlys thing, I don't change for that, maybe I'm the odd one in the bunch!

But less bashing of either sex!

Yeah, we're all in this together (H.S Musical moment!)

I love women. I love the sexy girly flowery clothes they can wear and they look so bloody gorgeous. They also smell lovely and fresh (well, the ones I pick do!) and they say mental things like "what's offside" and "can you just tickle my back" (for 4hours) and talk about things which, are to me --pointless. Then afterwards you feel better for talking to them about crap as you then get to talk about videogames/football/the latest deep-meaning of a band. Women are also soooo soft. Their skin is just....perfect.

Which you know neither of you normally would...but it's just...wonderful!

Ah....Love! :heart:

[Fierce_LiNk]

Haha, yeees, let's promote lovely feelings for both sexes.

And TeeDee, I think I like having the whole closeness thing with girls/women. Being able to share stuff with them, and daft things as well. It doesn't have to be serious all the time, but just something lighthearted. But then, also being able to talk for a long time about music, or something quite important to both of us.

Nowadays, I think its a lot harder to find that "special" one. The one who shines out brighter than others. A lot of girls I've met over the last few years end up really being the same, or similar to each other. There's no soul there.

[Hellfire]

Another year of no-relations for me. Hells yeah.

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[nightwolf]

Ah guys guys guys..^_^

I love the way you lot think, everything so logical and simple. The way guys eyes always say what they are thinking and the way you always listen even when you don't want too! When you're in love and even when you are completely soaked from the rain and upset you still look gorgeous.

...and don't even get me started on play fighting with you lot ^_^.

I miss being in a relationship.

[Dante]

Another year of no-relations for me. Hells yeah.

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hugs hellfire!

[RoadKill]

Actually, shes legal. Seriously.

Well, yeah, Julianna Rose Mauriello is 17 now, but she still plays an 8 year old or whatever in the TV show, so, yeah, sick fucks or something

Oh and some shitty things may have happened in 2008, but nothing to do with a sexual relationship of any type, hahaha, you'll have to turn your dial back to 2004 for the last time that happened to me

[Mundi]

I´m in the no relation book too and am a bit bummed over that.
So yeah I´m all RONELY!

[tapedeck]

Nowadays, I think its a lot harder to find that "special" one. The one who shines out brighter than others. A lot of girls I've met over the last few years end up really being the same, or similar to each other. There's no soul there.

Yeah!! This is my predicament half the time. Shiiiit! Revelation Flinky!
Where are the women that like to paint, like to sing and like to NOT go clubbing? Maybe they are all in the OAP home!
I'm too old for 25 lol.

I was dragged from pillar to post as a kid. Started in a shitty council area with (honestly) corrugated iron as windows. My mom then married someone in the army to escape the dive of the North East where we were struggling to even eat. When we moved to Cyprus (then Aldershot) with a "posh" dad, I was happy.
They then put me in Boarding School and after they divorced I was forced back with my proper dad (ugh) in the North East - on a farm of all places! Since then I've lived in Scotland/Germany/Cyprus and now back in the NE (not for long hopefully!)

So I've seen all kinds of different people. I've never had lifelong friends. I am a twin though so me and my sister are close (which is nice). But I always feel other people don't know how lucky they are to be just "secure". I get on with anyone and everyone but people my own age (in their 20's) just frustrate me by their lack of ... substance. I guess I can't really blame people for their situation or their ignorance. But...at the same time I feel alone at times. Strange considering being on your own as a child should enforce stability and self-security? With me...it seems I always have a need to chase this security.

[Jimbob]

Well, 2008 hasn't been the best for women for me. I've had 2 girlfriends in the space of 3 months. First one was nice, but all she was after was money and sex basically. And the sex only came when she wanted it, which was when she was drunk off her head. Glad i ditched her, am saving loads of money now.

Second one, which was Lisa btw. She decided to not allow me up to hers and always came up with a hocus bogus excuse as to why i couldn't go up or her to come down to mine.

I think 2009 i will try harder to find someone better, bound to be someone.

[Rummy]

2006 was one of the worst years of my life to date.

The issue is females look at something from every angle. Men don't tend to do this. Hence arguments.

The problem is this, they look at it from every angle but not properly, and they never make up their mind which angle they want. The argument ensues because they keep chopping and changing, whilst guys stick to theirs and their logic! At least, that's how it's been for me. I swear, any girl I argue with, their point constantly changes with every rebuke I present. There's a few who aren't like that, we get on fine, even if I 'lose' the argument.

Well, long story short: She was my housemate, and we were best mates for a while, too. Then, suddenly this one night, she comes onto me heavily and tells me she loves me. Problem was, she was with somebody else at the time. It was an awful situation to be in, and I feel so angry at myself for letting her have power over me. Thing is, I told her lots of personal things, and I felt like I could trust her, and I was still in a non-stable state after the events of last year. So, I'm pretty angry that she put me through all that, but I'm really glad she's outta my life now.
Not my place to be asking questions, and feel free to tell me to feck off, but did it go anywhere, did you get involved or not? If you did, what happened to her boyfriend? Or did you not know, or what? What a fuckup, glad to hear you're glad to be out of it :D.
I don't know how some people justify doing some things, honestly. I kind of second your later post too, nobody seems to have enough substance any more, I don't know if it's me that's changed, or people. Kinda worries me if it's me :wtf:

[tapedeck]

I've always thought men were deeper than women. (On a general scale.)

...This whole 'substance' discussion intrigues me...

[Rummy]

When I talk about substance, well, it's sort of general lately! I dunno, I feel bored with the world, things seem duller and less interesting than they used to be, sometimes. I can't quite explain it, but nobody seems fresh and different! It's pretty ridiculous too, cos I think a mate of mine went through something similar and I didn't get it and just was such an arse lol, thinking he was just thinking too much and being a bit poncey. Every new face giving me their time seems like an old one, and all the interesting ones are off somewhere I'm not. I don't feel like I'm having fresh, or deep, conversations anymore, not like I used to. I dunno, I think we're just getting old, really :heh:

[Eenuh]

Yeah!! This is my predicament half the time. Shiiiit! Revelation Flinky!
Where are the women that like to paint, like to sing and like to NOT go clubbing? Maybe they are all in the OAP home!
I'm too old for 25 lol.


I love to paint, I sing when I feel like it and I never go clubbing. =P


Anyway, my relationship with my ex (first ever boyfriend) ended at the very beginning of 2008. One of the worst/most difficult moments of my life, and still hurts now.

[Dyson]

Apparantly so, my flatmates have been having bad luck in their relationships..

[Ashley]

As someone (Flinky I believe) said, every year has bad relationships.

Personally not been in one...oh wait I was in a one week thing. I believe my mind was elsewhere during that week.

People around me; parents split up (years in the making). Housemate broke up with her boyfriend over the summer, got back together and now are all coupley but won't survive after uni finishes next year. Everyone else I believe is the same. Oh except another friend vanished into the bermuda triangle known as living together.

Sympathies for those who have suffered a-ha shake heartbreak this year.

[LazyBoy]

I somewhat consider myself part of this. Having to leave my girlfriend in China, that was heartbreaking, I could of loved that girl, if only we had more time. Not even the droves of women i'm having every week can comfort me. I mean I just finished up maybe 20 minutes ago on some blonde, and i'm already thinking about her.

Oh what a hard life.

[uəʌəsʎɐɾ]

Get in there, LazyBoy :P

But seriously - I spent most of the year getting over one relationship then fucking up another one. I think 2009 will be a year of sorting myself the fuck out so I can actually relate to other human beings.

I like to think I 'set up' Short and nami, and they're going strong, but before them the last pairing I set up was... not good. Lots of flying objects, self-harm and police intervention (but not like that described so visually on the previous page :P), so I think I'm generally just no good at it all.

[nightwolf]

Get in there, LazyBoy :P

But seriously - I spent most of the year getting over one relationship then fucking up another one. I think 2009 will be a year of sorting myself the fuck out so I can actually relate to other human beings.

I like to think I 'set up' Short and nami, and they're going strong, but before them the last pairing I set up was... not good. Lots of flying objects, self-harm and police intervention (but not like that described so visually on the previous page :P), so I think I'm generally just no good at it all.

Oh come on we helped set up andy and anna and they are perfectly fine together too! :).

I'm sure you'll be fine! :yay:

edit: lazyboy reminds me of somebody, very weird, he was exactly the same, could go through lots and lots of women but could never stop thinking about somebody else! He was a foolish fool :P

[LazyBoy]

I prefer to call myself a romantic.

[King_V]

I somewhat consider myself part of this. Having to leave my girlfriend in China, that was heartbreaking, I could of loved that girl, if only we had more time. Not even the droves of women i'm having every week can comfort me. I mean I just finished up maybe 20 minutes ago on some blonde, and i'm already thinking about her.

Oh what a hard life.

That is a scary thought man. To go through life while having strong feelings for someone who you probably couldn't be with again... Thats the main reason I just had to reconcile with mine. I mean I know there are prettier, more sexier felines out there... But its just not the same. :(

[Chris the great]

meh, i know a couple of couples who broke up this year. to be honest i know more who stayed together.

i suppose it just depends on your social group, and whats going on around that time, as well as issues like age and work.


as for me, realtionships never entered the equation, still playing the game of life on 1P mode

[nightwolf]

I prefer to call myself a romantic.

aww ^_^ there aren't enough romantic guys around!

[Jamba]

yeah, I had the shittest relationship year in a long time. Or ever!
But... it doesn't seem too bad in retrospect lol

Dude, I didn't hear anything about this at all! Was I away at the time? :confused:

And I get the whole moving thing. Went to boarding school as well and I don't really know what "home" feels like because I haven't lived in 1 place for more than 12 months since I was 12 years old.

But yeah relationships...

You've all gathered that stuff went bad with bluey recently but hey...


:yay: :yay: :yay: We got back togther so I'm not gonna let all:yay: :yay: :yay:
: peace: : peace: : peace: you lots' grumbling get me down!: peace: : peace: : peace:

[Dannyboy-the-Dane]

Sad to hear about all the break-ups, glad to hear about those for whom it's going well. :)

You'd think I'd be sad about my relationship not working, but I was actually more sad being in it when it wasn't working. Now I'm happy that I'm being honest with myself and true to my feelings again - and luckily she feels the same way. :)

Anyway, gender roles have always buggered me. How come our behaviourial patterns should be determined by outdated social norms? Thus I don't think we can say "what is wrong with men/women". I'm for example not your typical "hard", physical guy, but more of a "soft", romantic thinker.

[Chris the great]

aww ^_^ there aren't enough romantic guys around!

theres enough of us. yet it turns out that what ever women tell you, they dont actualy want the romantic guy, not in my experience any way :p.

[Wesley]

This thread is full of sad.

Cheery ups!

I haven't been in a bad relationship since 2005. Aaaah! :D

Smiile.

[Fierce_LiNk]

Not my place to be asking questions, and feel free to tell me to feck off, but did it go anywhere, did you get involved or not? If you did, what happened to her boyfriend? Or did you not know, or what? What a fuckup, glad to hear you're glad to be out of it :D.
I don't know how some people justify doing some things, honestly. I kind of second your later post too, nobody seems to have enough substance any more, I don't know if it's me that's changed, or people. Kinda worries me if it's me :wtf:

I don't really like talking about it, but I remember a looong time ago you mentioned watching Desmond's, so that's cool.

It did kinda go somewhere. I tried to break it off so many times, but because we lived together, I was boxed in. I lived with my ex for a while after we broke up, and this was probably more awkward. You can't move, avoid, or even breathe without the other person noticing you. So, I ended up spending so much time out of the house, just to stop being around her. Ended up making another close friend this way, and I'm loads better now she's gone.

I don't know what she was playing at, to be honest. She said she wanted to be with me at first, then changed her mind, and then went back home with her boyfriend when the year was over. Looking back on it, she clearly just wanted fun, saw I was there and used that. I used to think of her so much as a friend, and I can't believe I was stupid enough to get caught up in that situation.

Never again! Housemates are a no-go.

[dazzybee]

Me and my girlfriend have had a great year...better than last year....am I still allowed in here? Saying that, there's a whole different worry with that! It terrifies me......wandering eyes and mind......

[Ten10]

Well for everyone that's still trucking, I hope you escape the breakup curse of 2008. But even though I'm over all that happened sometimes you just can't escape that ronery feeling :(

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[rokhed00]

Same as every other year for me, but I'm in one of those relationships that just goes on and on and on, despite feeling like it'll be over any minute.

[Haden]

Yup mine went south, but won't be long until someone else comes along, I think 2009 will be much kinder to me. But despite what happened I'm a better person today because of it, and in regards to my former lady: No worries here (http://pown.it/399)

omg sorry not much to say in this thread haven't been in a relationship this year but that video is hillarious!

[Rummy]

I don't really like talking about it, but I remember a looong time ago you mentioned watching Desmond's, so that's cool.

It did kinda go somewhere. I tried to break it off so many times, but because we lived together, I was boxed in. I lived with my ex for a while after we broke up, and this was probably more awkward. You can't move, avoid, or even breathe without the other person noticing you. So, I ended up spending so much time out of the house, just to stop being around her. Ended up making another close friend this way, and I'm loads better now she's gone.

I don't know what she was playing at, to be honest. She said she wanted to be with me at first, then changed her mind, and then went back home with her boyfriend when the year was over. Looking back on it, she clearly just wanted fun, saw I was there and used that. I used to think of her so much as a friend, and I can't believe I was stupid enough to get caught up in that situation.

Never again! Housemates are a no-go.

Aw shit, sorry man, didn't mean to go bringing it up. I get nosy sometimes thinking I can try and help people, dunno why I do it. Though I'm an ear if you ever want one. I can imagine the awkwardness, and I know people who've done the same, getting involved with people they live with(which is all good, until it goes wrong). I don't see why some girls can't just be straight up dammit! Which is what I was saying about them not deciding on their angle, men are so much more simple :heh:! Doesn't sound like she was good enough of a friend to have ever messed you about like it anyway, so it's been for the best, especially with getting a newer better friend out of it!

And for the record, I still love Desmonds! They've got loads of it on Virgin OD now, so I watch it from time to time, I even made myself two Desmond's ringtones instead of doing my disseration this year! :D:D

[Fierce_LiNk]

Aw shit, sorry man, didn't mean to go bringing it up. I get nosy sometimes thinking I can try and help people, dunno why I do it. Though I'm an ear if you ever want one. I can imagine the awkwardness, and I know people who've done the same, getting involved with people they live with(which is all good, until it goes wrong). I don't see why some girls can't just be straight up dammit! Which is what I was saying about them not deciding on their angle, men are so much more simple :heh:! Doesn't sound like she was good enough of a friend to have ever messed you about like it anyway, so it's been for the best, especially with getting a newer better friend out of it!

And for the record, I still love Desmonds! They've got loads of it on Virgin OD now, so I watch it from time to time, I even made myself two Desmond's ringtones instead of doing my disseration this year! :D:D

Hahaha, Desmond's is the stuff dreams are made of. Cracking show. Also, you've got to watch Porkpie, the spin-off. He wins the lottery, hahaha.

But, she was a total bitch, to be honest. My ex turned into a complete ho-bag, but I've never seen one person change so much like my housemate did. She used to be so considerate, and then she just changed. Worse still, is that it rubs off on you, and you hate the person you are because of how they make you feel.

She was so indecisive, and I was being strung along for a lot of the time. It has pretty much knocked my perception of women now, really. It does make you extremely cautious. Women do like to play games, and a lot will just pick you up or drop you like a yo-yo. Sometimes they don't know they do it, and other times they're fully aware.

[Rummy]

Haha, my dear boy, you speaking directly out of my mind! Everything, like actually everything in your post, rang true to me and my situations of past, especially this one of the summer. She STILL insists she wasn't playing anything, too, but I find it hard to believe she can be so naive to her own self. If it's truly the case, I'd fear the day she realises what power she actually holds. Of all people too, I thought myself above and beyond it! Far too sensible to be suckered! I put up a good fight though, and definitely limited the damage, at the end of the day this little dent is slowly springing itself out.
Even the Porkpie bit too, brilliant stuff! We have them on tape somewhere(along with shitloads of Desmonds) but I don't know where, I don't know why it got cancelled so soon either, I thought it was rather good! In fact, I think I might look to make myself a new ringtone....;)

[Ten10]

Major off topic. I think porkpie opened like a jerk chicken shop after winning the lottery, but I think the reason it stopped was because everyone felt it wasn't the same without Norman Beaton

[Fierce_LiNk]

theres enough of us. yet it turns out that what ever women tell you, they dont actualy want the romantic guy, not in my experience any way :p.

I dunno how I missed your post, but you're right.

I'd even go as far to suggest that women just want the macho-guy, or somebody to treat them like arseholes. Seems to work. The problem is, or what I've found anyway, is that most girls will automatically assume you'll never want anything more than friendship if you don't make it obvious from the start. So, if you try to get to know them first, it goes against you, and you just end up being stuck as the friend, whilst somebody else swoops in.

Haha, my dear boy, you speaking directly out of my mind! Everything, like actually everything in your post, rang true to me and my situations of past, especially this one of the summer. She STILL insists she wasn't playing anything, too, but I find it hard to believe she can be so naive to her own self. If it's truly the case, I'd fear the day she realises what power she actually holds. Of all people too, I thought myself above and beyond it! Far too sensible to be suckered! I put up a good fight though, and definitely limited the damage, at the end of the day this little dent is slowly springing itself out.
Even the Porkpie bit too, brilliant stuff! We have them on tape somewhere(along with shitloads of Desmonds) but I don't know where, I don't know why it got cancelled so soon either, I thought it was rather good! In fact, I think I might look to make myself a new ringtone....;)

Women do hold all the keys, though. They'll argue to the death that they don't, but they do. And, worse of all, the ones that do know this, are the really awful ones who do turn you inside out.

It's the same with guys. Some girls really fall for guys, and then they do the same thing, they abuse that power. I guess that's what it is - a power game.

I had a lot of the episodes on tape, too. I'll try and fish eet out when I get to go home.

Major off topic. I think porkpie opened like a jerk chicken shop after winning the lottery, but I think the reason it stopped was because everyone felt it wasn't the same without Norman Beaton

Yeah, it really wasn't the same without him. :(

[CoolFunkMan]

My gf broke up with me this year too, she was my first gf, and it was a serious relationship (2 years.)

Basicaly, she moved away to uni in Aberystwyth and life started to get difficult for her, as she's never had to cope on her own before. Plus uni work was plentyful. One day, she called me and said that she couldn't cope with the relationship any more because it wasn't helping. So we ended it but stayed as friends. That is... until a week later when I saw her for the weeked and we got back together. However, she called me again a week later to break up with me for the same previous reasons. This was just over a month ago now.

From what I've heard, some of her friends went down (who really don't like me), and convinced her to end it with me. Of course, she'd had this whole splitting up thing in mind anyway. However, we are still friends, and she is sort of with someone else now, but she's really messed up after splitting up with me. I'm getting over it... slowly.

[tapedeck]

I dunno how I missed your post, but you're right.

I'd even go as far to suggest that women just want the macho-guy, or somebody to treat them like arseholes. Seems to work. The problem is, or what I've found anyway, is that most girls will automatically assume you'll never want anything more than friendship if you don't make it obvious from the start. So, if you try to get to know them first, it goes against you, and you just end up being stuck as the friend, whilst somebody else swoops in.


I agree with the macho thing. But I also have recently decided to do the following thing(s) having always been "the friend" or "the guy who will listen to all of my shit as I dump it on him for my own stupid mistakes". :p

I firmly believe that women purely want to know where they stand. They actually may not think this but I feel that they almost put men (subconsciously) in boxes of potential partners/friends/nobodies.

The trick is (imo) that you need to spell out that you find them attractive/interesting from as early as possible. If you make friends with them it's usually by purely listening/talking to them about relative info. But right at the beginning a bit of flirty play is always good -- but taking it one step further by, say, holding her wrist when asking for the time and saying sommat like "Wow, you have really nice/soft/pretty hands" or "your watch is totally fashion! Just like the rest of you!". (You can even use phones/iPods etc as a means of interaction now.)

These kinds of things I was always a bit "meh" with as I thought my niceness would shine through but giving off these signals of "intent" and being somewhat physical seems to work wonders. When you just talk it's friend territory. Making your nice gestures and 'physically' backing up these gestures (or reinforcing things via physical interaction) seems to push things towards relationship material.

Of course, everyone is different and the speed in which physical interaction can occur can come at many different points but I'd say, in general these things will stand anyone in good stead.

(Hope that helps someone!)

Oh..and The Desmonds was AWESOME. And I still love Porkpie!

[EEVILMURRAY]

Yeah it's been semi shitty. This lass who we said we were in love with each other, but not going out officially, I fucked that up when a bit drunk... wasn't best pleased.

[King_V]

My gf broke up with me this year too, she was my first gf, and it was a serious relationship (2 years.)

Basicaly, she moved away to uni in Aberystwyth and life started to get difficult for her, as she's never had to cope on her own before. Plus uni work was plentyful. One day, she called me and said that she couldn't cope with the relationship any more because it wasn't helping. So we ended it but stayed as friends. That is... until a week later when I saw her for the weeked and we got back together. However, she called me again a week later to break up with me for the same previous reasons. This was just over a month ago now.

From what I've heard, some of her friends went down (who really don't like me), and convinced her to end it with me. Of course, she'd had this whole splitting up thing in mind anyway. However, we are still friends, and she is sort of with someone else now, but she's really messed up after splitting up with me. I'm getting over it... slowly.

....:angry:

Stupid, stupid bitch. (no offense). But that is totally inconsiderate, to end your first serious relationship after 2 years because of uni?!! Out-fucking-rageous. Don't people understand that hardships are something that can be faced TOGETHER!? Behaviour like this is incredibly annoying its incredibly unfair... I'm sad for you because I can kind of 'sense' other peoples emotions when I know their ordeal, and there wasn't a hint of hard feelings in your post and you didn't really state how you feel, so you obviously still care for her...:(

[Rummy]

....:angry:

Stupid, stupid bitch. (no offense). But that is totally inconsiderate, to end your first serious relationship after 2 years because of uni?!! Out-fucking-rageous. Don't people understand that hardships are something that can be faced TOGETHER!? Behaviour like this is incredibly annoying its incredibly unfair... I'm sad for you because I can kind of 'sense' other peoples emotions when I know their ordeal, and there wasn't a hint of hard feelings in your post and you didn't really state how you feel, so you obviously still care for her...:(

Not to rain on his parade(or is it reign for parades? Who knows!) but what if it's just an excuse, and more a kind of grass is greener on the other side thing. People grow tired of some things, and think there's better out there, I think it definitely happens alot in relationships generally due to the arguable weight of commitment, and I think it's why alot break up(and often, make up). I hate how it is like that sometimes, though.

[CoolFunkMan]

....:angry:

Stupid, stupid bitch. (no offense). But that is totally inconsiderate, to end your first serious relationship after 2 years because of uni?!! Out-fucking-rageous. Don't people understand that hardships are something that can be faced TOGETHER!? Behaviour like this is incredibly annoying its incredibly unfair... I'm sad for you because I can kind of 'sense' other peoples emotions when I know their ordeal, and there wasn't a hint of hard feelings in your post and you didn't really state how you feel, so you obviously still care for her...:(

No offense taken. And it does still hurt a bit, but I can see me and her becoming friends, and that's going ok so far. I admit, there were some tough times in the latter part of our relationship, it was starting to become a bit unstable tbh. But we always managed to work stuff out in the end, so this was kind of out-of-the-blue. I still have some feelings for her left, but I just can't see that working any more. It does upset me, and sometimes I get a bit angry. However, I don't know why... but I just can't bring myself to hate her.

[King_V]

Not to rain on his parade(or is it reign for parades? Who knows!) but what if it's just an excuse, and more a kind of grass is greener on the other side thing. People grow tired of some things, and think there's better out there, I think it definitely happens alot in relationships generally due to the arguable weight of commitment, and I think it's why alot break up(and often, make up). I hate how it is like that sometimes, though.

Your right. And I'd be the first to agree that I've had such thoughts, and I'm sure my gal has too. I still kind of think it actually, like 'what if'. But those are just sparse thoughts, I'm sure this occurs with married couples as well. Anyone who would end a serious (and especially first) relationship on such thoughts (which, by nature are rose-tinted thoughts) usually remain indecisive and unsatisfied with what they got... This is when you play TLC's "Don't go chasing waterfalls".

No offense taken. And it does still hurt a bit, but I can see me and her becoming friends, and that's going ok so far. I admit, there were some tough times in the latter part of our relationship, it was starting to become a bit unstable tbh. But we always managed to work stuff out in the end, so this was kind of out-of-the-blue. I still have some feelings for her left, but I just can't see that working any more. It does upset me, and sometimes I get a bit angry. However, I don't know why... but I just can't bring myself to hate her.

:( ...

*no homo man-hug*

[bluey]

But yeah relationships...

You've all gathered that stuff went bad with bluey recently but hey...


:yay: :yay: :yay: We got back togther so I'm not gonna let all:yay: :yay: :yay:
: peace: : peace: : peace: you lots' grumbling get me down!: peace: : peace: : peace:


WEEW!! *insert many many emotes!*
:heart:
looking back on a whole year full of stuff always makes things look worse than they really were... i could say this was a pretty bad year for my sandwich-eating habit... but really i just switched sandwiches for rice-balls... i've eaten plenty of sandwices!!


...um....
what i think i'm trying to say is ~ tings 'aint as bad as all dat, fellas!
'ere's a little song i wrote~ don' worry..... beeee happy.... *whistle solo~*

[King_V]

WEEW!! *insert many many emotes!*
:heart:
looking back on a whole year full of stuff always makes things look worse than they really were... i could say this was a pretty bad year for my sandwich-eating habit... but really i just switched sandwiches for rice-balls... i've eaten plenty of sandwices!!


...um....
what i think i'm trying to say is ~ tings 'aint as bad as all dat, fellas!
'ere's a little song i wrote~ don' worry..... beeee happy.... *whistle solo~*

Congratulations. :yay:

[The Bard]

Nah, can't say it was, I met my better half this year, sparks happened etc. She moved in a month and an half ago, and life has been awesome ever since[/cheese]. Although if we're looking at relationships strictly outside "that" particular area of interest, the guy I considered my best mate for years hasn't talked to me since the summer...which is faintly depressing, but hey, shit happens.

[Ten10]

WEEW!! *insert many many emotes!*
:heart:
looking back on a whole year full of stuff always makes things look worse than they really were... i could say this was a pretty bad year for my sandwich-eating habit... but really i just switched sandwiches for rice-balls... i've eaten plenty of sandwices!!


...um....
what i think i'm trying to say is ~ tings 'aint as bad as all dat, fellas!
'ere's a little song i wrote~ don' worry..... beeee happy.... *whistle solo~*

Um Yay.... but also..... FALCON PUNCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm glad you guys got back together, it means I can buy stuff off you again. But this thread so far has been more like a depressed lonely hearts club.

[Jav_NE]

It's been a rocky year for my relationship thats for sure, but we survived. It's good in a way because its easy to get comfortable and take advantage of your partner when you've together for a while, so nearly breaking up a few times this year has been like, whoa, we really need and love each other, so why arn't we showing each other that?

So yeah, we need to work on that. I'm sure 2009 wont be a breeze, but you can only hope and work for the best.

[Sheikah]

My gf broke up with me this year too, she was my first gf, and it was a serious relationship (2 years.)

Basicaly, she moved away to uni in Aberystwyth and life started to get difficult for her, as she's never had to cope on her own before. Plus uni work was plentyful. One day, she called me and said that she couldn't cope with the relationship any more because it wasn't helping. So we ended it but stayed as friends. That is... until a week later when I saw her for the weeked and we got back together. However, she called me again a week later to break up with me for the same previous reasons. This was just over a month ago now.

From what I've heard, some of her friends went down (who really don't like me), and convinced her to end it with me. Of course, she'd had this whole splitting up thing in mind anyway. However, we are still friends, and she is sort of with someone else now, but she's really messed up after splitting up with me. I'm getting over it... slowly.

Tbh "uni" is such a shallow excuse for not being able to continue a relationship. She probably has more spare time than ever before, even with revision. She actually probably just wanted to end it because she couldn't be arsed with the travelling involved.

[Jav_NE]

Yeah, long-distance uni relationships rarely work. For one, there's the distance. Obviously. But the most important is thing is the freedom. When people go off to uni they are in most cases free for the first time. This wouldnt be a problem, but with so many new friends and faces encouraging the whole going out and meeting new people thing, its a miracle any of these relationships last. throw in cheap drinks and you might as well have called it a day before she went.

I dont mean to sound horrible, but you're not the first it has happened to. I had a few mates at uni, guys and girls, who either broke up with their partners so they could have more fun, or their partners back home broke up with the them because they couldn't trust them. Its just never a good idea.

[King_V]

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?

[Goron_3]

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?

For a while yes. I mean when i broke up with my first love i found it really hard to trust girls and wasn't even thinking about falling in love again. Though after time everything feels different :)

[CoolFunkMan]

Tbh, I'm not too fussed any more. Me and my ex seem to be getting on a lot better as friends now, so I guess the split was for the best.

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?

For me, I was slightly cold hearted, but only for a short while. I'm certainly cautious of women now, and I'm not really in any rush to find anyone tbh. It's just put me off relationships for a bit, though if something happens, then I wouldn't mind.

[nightwolf]

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?

It depends on the person. I know alot of people who have loved someone alot, had their heart broken and been able to love quite quickly again.

Personally, I'm not sure, I used to say I'd never be able to love again, when infact it was really I wouldn't be able to love somebody the same way again. It can turned people very cold and awful, most of the time they come out of it, usually by the presence of somebody else!

It makes you cautious, but if the right person comes along then it tends to go completely out the window!

[CoolFunkMan]

It depends on the person. I know alot of people who have loved someone alot, had their heart broken and been able to love quite quickly again.

Personally, I'm not sure, I used to say I'd never be able to love again, when infact it was really I wouldn't be able to love somebody the same way again. It can turned people very cold and awful, most of the time they come out of it, usually by the presence of somebody else!

It makes you cautious, but if the right person comes along then it tends to go completely out the window!

Actually, I think this is more like what I was trying to say. Couldn't have said it better myself...

[King_V]

For a while yes. I mean when i broke up with my first love i found it really hard to trust girls and wasn't even thinking about falling in love again. Though after time everything feels different :)

For me, I was slightly cold hearted, but only for a short while. I'm certainly cautious of women now, and I'm not really in any rush to find anyone tbh. It's just put me off relationships for a bit, though if something happens, then I wouldn't mind.

You both seem to be more cautious... Was it that your first loves hurt you? Like couldn't fully understand or trust you. Right now, Im in heart ache (I know its not a 'tough' thing to say but whatever), basically it feels like I'm willing to make greater sacrifices for my girl but she won't for me. Its hurtful whenever there is a hint of unrequited love. Just when you thought things were going to a next level, when one feels the need to 'hold back' it just halts everything, because the trust does not seem mutual. Call me sad, but I couldn't really sleep and my heart is still pounding, and I feel immobilised to do stuff right now. These were the same feelings I felt when I broke up with her before...

Its hard because I reveal everything about me, say how I feel, be honest, and re-re-reassure her almost every time we speak but nothing seems to change her feeling of caution. Both in a relationship feel pain, so why would one be any cautious?

I think if this was to end, I would be just as you guys felt and a bit more determined and focused in my everyday things. Its funny; even though I love being in love, I know a lot of time, money and effort are expense... Yet I still love it. Yet I know if I wasn't in love, those colder emotions would drive me to be great in a lot of things, and I would also have the spare time and money lol...

:(

It depends on the person. I know alot of people who have loved someone alot, had their heart broken and been able to love quite quickly again.

Personally, I'm not sure, I used to say I'd never be able to love again, when infact it was really I wouldn't be able to love somebody the same way again. It can turned people very cold and awful, most of the time they come out of it, usually by the presence of somebody else!

It makes you cautious, but if the right person comes along then it tends to go completely out the window!

:(

Well said, I guess this is the treatment I am getting...

[nightwolf]

I think if this was to end, I would be just as you guys felt and a bit more determined and focused in my everyday things. Its funny; even though I love being in love, I know a lot of time, money and effort are expense... Yet I still love it. Yet I know if I wasn't in love, those colder emotions would drive me to be great in a lot of things, and I would also have the spare time and money lol...

:(

It's an interesting situation to look back on, at the time it feels as if everything is crumbling and it's just not worth doing anything, but every day makes alittle easier, you remember slight perks of being single and being independant, ok so you miss the hugs and the kisses and the little things. But then you remember you don't have to check in with your other half...you can look at people without being caught guilty. Those sorts of things.

It's a pain, it feels like somebody has shot you, but then the shot heals and leaves tiny scar for you to remember!

Just because you cannot love somebody the same way again doesn't mean you won't have a fantastic relationship with somebody else :).

[tapedeck]

King_V...I totally feel your pain. I'm on the mend at the moment too. But don't do the running mate. Never do the running. It's a power game and you need to just look after yourself. Don't give your affections or anything to her. Sadly, she's not worth it.

I've absorbed myself in work (and new ventures and people) but it's always difficult. Time is the healer here. There's always meeting someone else for a bit of flirty fun which does help. Afterall, your pride and emotions have taken a blow - the quickest way is to find company that appreciates you and finds you as you are (a good, decent, person). That is the road to recovery.

(And what Nightwolf perfectly said.) Mind you, you will love differently (and better next time), if you learn from it. Learn to guard yourself more perhaps. Or learn to be a bit more callous? Or a tad more "mysterious". These are the things most people are anyhoo. I'm slowly learning lol.

[Ten10]

Well since we're on the subject, when my lady decided to go chasing after someone else at the end of September, I have to admit its like a sword was thrust in my chest, but I was being kept alive and tortured, as much as I wanted to die I couldn't. Then one day I eventually did, and became a heartless soul. Still not sure what was more painful, dying or being dead. But after death will eventually come rebirth, and your equaliser. In my case the guy she left me for wasn't worth it, she's now pregnant with his child and he's pretty much gone bye bye. Now when she was looking to come running back I had already moved on, wasn't in the same place she left me.

[Jamba]

I think that you learn a lot about what/who you want. I think that you gain a very unbalanced taste for what you DON'T like at first but that evens out with some perspective. You feel the need for big change so your life can get better and at first a relationship is the same thing that you have just been doing. So you're trying to get away from that....

But each person you go out with, you will fall in love with completely seperately. There's no way of explaining how that is going to feel or how that could possibly happen again but that's one of the reasons why it is so great.

[King_V]

King_V...I totally feel your pain. I'm on the mend at the moment too. But don't do the running mate. Never do the running. It's a power game and you need to just look after yourself. Don't give your affections or anything to her. Sadly, she's not worth it.

I've absorbed myself in work (and new ventures and people) but it's always difficult. Time is the healer here. There's always meeting someone else for a bit of flirty fun which does help. Afterall, your pride and emotions have taken a blow - the quickest way is to find company that appreciates you and finds you as you are (a good, decent, person). That is the road to recovery.

(And what Nightwolf perfectly said.) Mind you, you will love differently (and better next time), if you learn from it. Learn to guard yourself more perhaps. Or learn to be a bit more callous? Or a tad more "mysterious". These are the things most people are anyhoo. I'm slowly learning lol.

Thanks Deck...:( ... Had a talk yesterday so things seem a bit lighter on the heart... But I still have a bad feeling about wether I can stomach this feeling of mistreatment. Apparently, she just likes to have things done her way. The most annoying thing is, when she makes a rule but doesn't stand by them herself, and when she does stuff and can't hack when its done back to her. For example, when I say I love her, sometimes it could be replied by her with "thats nice to know"... fair enough (mind, I always say I love her in response if she says such), but when she rarely plucks out the courage to say it, I responded once with "ah, thats nice to know" and then she gets all moody! :shakehead Annoying, isn't it?

I just like equality and mutuality above all. But i don't seem to be getting it... :(

Right now, I feel as if a bit of the love has faded away permanantly. and I'm the most optimistic person you could find. But I do believe in miracles and I also feel that if you can stomach bad experiences, everything else after will seem like a bed of roses... So I guess I'm still optmistic nonetheless.

[Eenuh]

Maybe she has gotten a bit cautious about saying 'I love you', maybe after some other relationships that turned bad?
I know that for me it's something I will not just say anymore whenever someone else throws that sentiment my way. Sometimes it's best to keep it for when you're really sure you love someone. So if she's cautious about saying it, maybe that means she's not quite sure yet what exactly she feels for you?

I don't know, sorry if I'm not making sense.

[King_V]

Maybe she has gotten a bit cautious about saying 'I love you', maybe after some other relationships that turned bad?
I know that for me it's something I will not just say anymore whenever someone else throws that sentiment my way. Sometimes it's best to keep it for when you're really sure you love someone. So if she's cautious about saying it, maybe that means she's not quite sure yet what exactly she feels for you?

I don't know, sorry if I'm not making sense.

Thanks, and I understand perfectly, and of course its one of the first things I thought/think. But I have spoken about such, and she says that isn't the case. She says I should trust her and not jump to my own conclusions... so I've taken it upon myself to trust her. She can tell me she loves me, but only after I've said it, she could barely say it independantly.

If it was so that she doesn't love me, after everything, then that would be so much better to know rather than to be 'victim' to strange behaviour or energy.

[MoogleViper]

Me and my (ex)girlfriend split up on wednesday.

It's been pretty much over for months though.

[Raining_again]

Me and my (ex)girlfriend split up on wednesday.

It's been pretty much over for months though.

Yikes, I hope you are okay! Still staying friends?

[MoogleViper]

Yikes, I hope you are okay! Still staying friends?

I dunno. She never spent any time with me when we were together so I don't see why she would now. I think she still wants to be friends but I don't.

I had bought part of her christmas present but when we split I took it back. I asked for my stuff back and she had given me some presents and had written something along the lines of, "Despite recent events I still want you to have this." (she had written it because that's the only way she can communicate. She avoids conflict but that's always created more problems as they never get sorted out.) So yesterday before work I went back and got what I had got before, but this time they had 10% off. So when I take her stuff over I'll give her that. My mum keeps saying that she's going to get her a christmas present anyway. She always has to make things more awkward.

[Raining_again]

I dunno. She never spent any time with me when we were together so I don't see why she would now. I think she still wants to be friends but I don't.

I had bought part of her christmas present but when we split I took it back. I asked for my stuff back and she had given me some presents and had written something along the lines of, "Despite recent events I still want you to have this." (she had written it because that's the only way she can communicate. She avoids conflict but that's always created more problems as they never get sorted out.) So yesterday before work I went back and got what I had got before, but this time they had 10% off. So when I take her stuff over I'll give her that. My mum keeps saying that she's going to get her a christmas present anyway. She always has to make things more awkward.

Awh that's sad.

*n-e hug for moogle*

[MoogleViper]

Awh that's sad.

*n-e hug for moogle*

I don't feel sad. TBH I wish I had ended it months ago. I've wanted to for ages but didn't want to regret it. I didn't want to end it and then feel like I'd never be with someone again. I was just wanting her to give me a reason to end it. I know it sounds weird but that's how I felt.

[Raining_again]

I don't feel sad. TBH I wish I had ended it months ago. I've wanted to for ages but didn't want to regret it. I didn't want to end it and then feel like I'd never be with someone again. I was just wanting her to give me a reason to end it. I know it sounds weird but that's how I felt.

moogle, you silly, you are an awesome catch! Saying that, I understand how you feel though. Its like being stuck in something safe (but unhappy) and not wanting to go out into the dangerous wilderness. Or something :heh:

At least you know its what you want rather than have rushed it and regretted doing so, eh? :smile:

[Strider]

Me and my (ex)girlfriend split up on wednesday.

It's been pretty much over for months though.

I heard last night, i was quite shocked to be honest. I understand why you were like you were last week now (sorry if i said anything stupid).

[MoogleViper]

I heard last night, i was quite shocked to be honest. I understand why you were like you were last week now (sorry if i said anything stupid).

No you didn't. How did you find out btw?

[Strider]

No you didn't. How did you find out btw?

Kate told me.

[Molly]

Sorry to hear that Moogle. As R_A said, you can be more sure you won't regret it as you gave it a chance rather than doing something rash. I hope you feel happier now, at least in the long run, if you weren't happy before.

If you need a hug from an NE relative stranger, I'm here *Massive hug*. :)

[Dannyboy-the-Dane]

Hugs are our speciality. :)

[ReZourceman]

rather than doing something rash.

Yeah bring that up, that'll make him feel better.

Hugs are our speciality. :)

Hugs with benefits as I like to call them.

[Rummy]

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?

Of course, I wholeheartedly believe it does. Though whether or not it's forever, I don't know. I think love is overhyped beyond what it essentially is, and far too sentimentalised, but I don't know if that means I'm coldhearted, just kind of...realist?

[Paj!]

Of course, I wholeheartedly believe it does. Though whether or not it's forever, I don't know. I think love is overhyped beyond what it essentially is, and far too sentimentalised, but I don't know if that means I'm coldhearted, just kind of...realist?

You're frozen when you're heart's not open.

[Fierce_LiNk]

You're frozen when you're heart's not open.

OoooooooooooooooooooooooooooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooo ooooooooooo


Or is it more like a hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmMMMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmm mm?

As for the idea of feeling colder: I'd say yeah. More so because you're hurt. You put the trust into someone, and when it ends, you feel like you've been betrayed, I guess, because you've given someone your love.

Although, it is possible to love and love again. I guess maybe you appreciate it more the second time around, who knows. I'm watching Face/Off, I don't know what the shit I'm typing.

[Aimless]

I want to ask you guys and gals something. When a loving relationship ends, would you say your heart gets just a little bit colder? And you grow a bit desensitized to 'love'?
Obviously there's no right answer to that question, but I would say that rather than becoming desensitised to love you instead start to understand it more. Some small part of the mystery — or the romanticism, even — is rubbed away.

Is that a bad thing? Again, debatable. I would say it's akin to understanding a hurricane: you have no more control over when it appears, but you can be prepared for its arrival so you won't be swept off your feet; you're still able to appreciate its power and beauty without being consumed by it. And when you've seen a real storm, maybe that which you experienced seems a mere breeze in comparison.

[Slaggis]

You're frozen when you're heart's not open.

I love how within the space of a few minutes, you've managed to quote Madonna in two seperate posts.

[Dannyboy-the-Dane]

Obviously there's no right answer to that question, but I would say that rather than becoming desensitised to love you instead start to understand it more. Some small part of the mystery — or the romanticism, even — is rubbed away.

Is that a bad thing? Again, debatable. I would say it's akin to understanding a hurricane: you have no more control over when it appears, but you can be prepared for its arrival so you won't be swept off your feet; you're still able to appreciate its power and beauty without being consumed by it. And when you've seen a real storm, maybe that which you experienced seems a mere breeze in comparison.
Nice metaphor. :)

[Paj!]

Or is it more like a hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmMMMMMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmm mm?


That's the one.

I love how within the space of a few minutes, you've managed to quote Madonna in two seperate posts.

I'm not sorry, It's human nature.

[Ten10]

Spoke to the ex today, starting to feel sorry for her....... help..... PLEASE!!!!!

[Paj!]

Spoke to the ex today, starting to feel sorry for her....... help..... PLEASE!!!!!

Sky fits heaven, so fly it. That's what the prophet said to me.

[Ten10]

Sky fits heaven, so fly it. That's what the prophet said to me.

Never understood that song. I think I probably still have a soft spot for her. Even though it was her fault we split up in the first place. But sent a text to my backup to get the shotgun ready just incase. The idea is that he'll slap some sense into me every time I get one of those sloppy maybe we should get back together ideas...... besides I should be happy (http://pown.it/399) more than anything else.

[Paj!]

Never understood that song.

I love the fact you know it at all.

[Dannyboy-the-Dane]

Never understood that song. I think I probably still have a soft spot for her. Even though it was her fault we split up in the first place. But sent a text to my backup to get the shotgun ready just incase. The idea is that he'll slap some sense into me every time I get one of those sloppy maybe we should get back together ideas...... besides I should be happy (http://pown.it/399) more than anything else.
It can be hard to get completely over someone if you really had feelings for that person. But even though you may never completely get over her, you'll eventually be able to move on.

[CoolFunkMan]

Never understood that song. I think I probably still have a soft spot for her. Even though it was her fault we split up in the first place. But sent a text to my backup to get the shotgun ready just incase. The idea is that he'll slap some sense into me every time I get one of those sloppy maybe we should get back together ideas...... besides I should be happy (http://pown.it/399) more than anything else.

Tbh, if she hurt you that badly, then it's a bad idea to get back with her. I hate to sound shallow-minded here, but in my experience, making up and getting back together again doesn't work. I don't mean to sound harsh, it's just that I've had it happen to myself and I've seen some of my friends go through the same in the past.

However, could you possibly consider friendship with her? The past is bad, but if you still care, then it might work out that way. It happened with me and my ex and we're really close friends now. We both agree we're better off this way. Okay, so our situation was different to yours, but it could still work out for you.

[Ten10]

Long ago I made the decision to walk away from it all. I consider the person that felt anyway about her was dead, and she was the one who killed him. But sometimes I guess I can feel that person resurrecting, and sometimes no amount of swords, knives, guns etc seem to be enough to finish him off once and for all.

I guess sometimes I just need to convince myself that I'm going the right way about things. I guess it because I'm the nice guy. But if I hadn't been the nice guy maybe I wouldn't be in this situation. But lady luck is on my side again and things just keep getting better and better for me, so I can't let her steal any of my thunder, she doesn't deserve it.