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Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 05:41 PM

Yes, HELP.

Alright, I met that Cat girl on Saturday, and we got really close. Hang on, let me just post this in here from the meaningless post thread.

I've been on a night out, so get ready for some more close encounters with the female kind.

Was meant to be going out pubbing with some mates tonight, but that didn't work out, so it got cancelled. Suzanne, who is a very good mate of mine, said it was somebody's birthday and that they were going to a pub and then a club and said I should come along. I thought hmm, I wanted to go out anyway, so why not?

So, I walked to hers, then walked with her and her mate to the pub, and then we proceeded to walk to the club. I was introducing myself to several of the peoples there, mostly female, and got chatting to a girl called Cat. She wandered off somewhere and I carried on talking with other people.

In the club, me, Suzanne and Cat were dancing and generally having a good time, it was pretty fun. Although, it was very hot, so we decided to go outside and go for a walk. Cat was freezing so I hugged her, and we carried on chatting.

We went to a bar called Ricky Ticks, and sat on the comfy sofas. Suzanne met a weirdo, and her mate who was along with us was laughing throughout most of that encounter, it was pretty funny. Through all this, me and Cat were just generally talking about things, and we kissed each other on the cheek quite a lot. We were playfully messing around and it ended up with one of us giving the other a peck on the cheek. A bit of shameless flirting, I feel.

By now, we were starving, so we had an idea to go get some food. Whilst waiting in the queue for the restaurant, we talked a lot more about stuff we liked, what meant a lot to us, etc. We've now made a day where we're going to watch Cool Runnings and Hook, haha.

Inside the food place, I said to Suzanne that I was having a good time tonight, and she motioned to where Cat was sitting, so apparantly it was pretty obvious that we were getting a bit friendly. In the end, it ended up with me and Cat getting a taxi by ourselves and the other two getting a taxi, so I quickly got Cat's number as we would be meeting up tomorrow with the others to go to the beach.

Taxi got at my place pretty quickly, and I got a goodnight kiss from Cat on the lips, but only a peck. I was hoping to get more, haha. I sorta leant in, but I wasn't quite sure if she wanted one on the lips or not, so it was only on the cheek, and now I've just got into my house.

So...hmm. We got on really great, and we'll see how tomorrow pans out!

There.

Alright, now we're going out tomorrow. We were going to meet up yesterday, but she was too tired from the night before. We were going to meet up today, but she and I both have a lot of work to do. So, we're meeting tomorrow. I figured, alright, I'll take her out for a meal and then drink.

And it seemed like a date to me, so I asked her if we should just call it a date, cos it felt like one, and she said alright.

Now EVERYTHING has changed. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I hate that D word. I've only ever been on two dates, and I was ok then, but now I'm a wreck.

Thing is, I should have kissed her, but I backed away when I should have leant in. Grrrr, I'm scared of getting rejected. That's why I didn't go for it.

So yeah...*FIRE!*

ShadowV7

23-04-2007, 05:47 PM

Caris

23-04-2007, 05:48 PM

Take a condom.

thirtynine.

23-04-2007, 05:49 PM

Where are you planning to go? Or is that part of the problem?
Also well done! And dont worry, it will be fine. (not that me saying that helps :P)

gaggle64

23-04-2007, 05:54 PM

Yes, HELP.

Alright, I met that Cat girl on Saturday, and we got really close.

Are you Batman?

Seriously though, you've got yourself a nice little date with what sounds like smashing lass, and there's clearly a spark in the air. So long as you don't start pelting custard or something at her it sounds like you're in with a bloody good shout.

The Bard

23-04-2007, 06:02 PM

Pics!!

Also, yeah, I feel I should tell you not to get your hopes up, she might have a penis.

ShadowV7

23-04-2007, 06:04 PM

Pics!!

Also, yeah, I feel I should tell you not to get your hopes up, she might have a penis.

Truely,a mans greatest fear...

To be sure let us judge with some pictures :heh:

Blackfox

23-04-2007, 06:18 PM

Awesome news Jimmy!

Just put all the shit with Bex to the back of your mind, you have to move onwards now - and this girls seems alright on the outset. You're a nice guy and if your e-personaltiy is similar to your irl-personality, then you shoul d be rocking! Be yourself - let her take you for what you are.

Also, keep it safe: wear a hat ;)

Excelle

23-04-2007, 06:21 PM

Try and take her somewhere a bit chilled - not oppressively posh. Else the atmosphere will be all wrong and you'll crap yourself. Although that does not mean McDonalds :)

I think the best advice I can give is to just treat her as if she were just a friend - i.e. just chat about whatever comes to mind. Don't try to impress her, cos you'll inevitably fail.

Although if you knew my relationship history, you probably wouldn't be taking my advice :) Although I managed to hold a relationship together for 3 years, so I can't be too bad. I'm much better at telling other people what to do though :laughing:

system_error

23-04-2007, 06:47 PM

I generally if the weather allows it go out into the sun, laying at a lake with a few friends or just in the huge park we have here. It is full of people in the grass, there is a nice cafe around the corner, you can get icecream and if you like you can have some privacy aswell or play frisbee, beach volleyball, etc. Because maybe she feels uncomfortable all alone (no offense to you of course) and so a place where a few people walk around might be better.

I would rather not take that as full date - more like a second chance to get to know each other. Take it slow and look what happens - just don't fall in love to soon and easily.

Just to reassure you that beside my crappy english I know what I am talking about - I live with my girlfriend together since over 4 years.

Kurtle Squad

23-04-2007, 08:07 PM

You shouldnt worry about not kissing; but yeah, go for it next time.

Ashley

23-04-2007, 08:15 PM

It is better to shout "fire" than "rape" if you feel as you are going to be sexually attacked. People are more likely to respond because they will feel they are possibly in danger due to the fire, but shouting rape may make them feel they will enter danger by trying to help.

Sorry, the thread title made me think of that. Always useful advice though eh?

G'luck F'link. Hope it goes swimmingly. Charm and dazzle her with your grace just like Bloc Party suggest ;)

And yes, you should have kissed her.

Charlie

23-04-2007, 08:20 PM

Thing is, I should have kissed her, but I backed away when I should have leant in. Grrrr, I'm scared of getting rejected. That's why I didn't go for it.

And you call yourself a stud?

In a completely unrelated topic, I didn't even speak to the girl I like and pulled on Friday today.

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 08:27 PM

Well I guess you could sort of count the last time you meant a semi-date.And since you were both flirty with each other means that she likes you so all you have to do is be yourself,then when the date is over just smack one on her lips.

I seriously doubt you'll get rejected,if anything you should have no worries about it,everything is set out,you both like each other so your sorted.

I'm not sure if she likes me, though. If I knew for certain she did, I would have properly kissed her. D'oh.

Take a condom.

Oh, God! Do I buy some? Should I buy some? Ahh, whaddo I do?
Where are you planning to go? Or is that part of the problem?
Also well done! And dont worry, it will be fine. (not that me saying that helps :P)

I think I know where I'm taking her tomorrow...I think. For a meal, hopefully.
Are you Batman?

Seriously though, you've got yourself a nice little date with what sounds like smashing lass, and there's clearly a spark in the air. So long as you don't start pelting custard or something at her it sounds like you're in with a bloody good shout.

Hehe, wish I WAS Batman.

Pics!!

Also, yeah, I feel I should tell you not to get your hopes up, she might have a penis.

I bluddy hope she doesn't have a penis...:(
Truely,a mans greatest fear...

To be sure let us judge with some pictures :heh:

Of what? Her crotch?
Awesome news Jimmy!

Just put all the shit with Bex to the back of your mind, you have to move onwards now - and this girls seems alright on the outset. You're a nice guy and if your e-personaltiy is similar to your irl-personality, then you shoul d be rocking! Be yourself - let her take you for what you are.

Also, keep it safe: wear a hat ;)

I'm hoping it goes well, but you know my luck...lol. :(

Try and take her somewhere a bit chilled - not oppressively posh. Else the atmosphere will be all wrong and you'll crap yourself. Although that does not mean McDonalds :)

I think the best advice I can give is to just treat her as if she were just a friend - i.e. just chat about whatever comes to mind. Don't try to impress her, cos you'll inevitably fail.

Although if you knew my relationship history, you probably wouldn't be taking my advice :) Although I managed to hold a relationship together for 3 years, so I can't be too bad. I'm much better at telling other people what to do though :laughing:

3 years is about how long I was with my ex. Is this a bad omen? Ahhh. *fire*
I generally if the weather allows it go out into the sun, laying at a lake with a few friends or just in the huge park we have here. It is full of people in the grass, there is a nice cafe around the corner, you can get icecream and if you like you can have some privacy aswell or play frisbee, beach volleyball, etc. Because maybe she feels uncomfortable all alone (no offense to you of course) and so a place where a few people walk around might be better.

I would rather not take that as full date - more like a second chance to get to know each other. Take it slow and look what happens - just don't fall in love to soon and easily.

Just to reassure you that beside my crappy english I know what I am talking about - I live with my girlfriend together since over 4 years.

That's a good idea, but I'll be busy working all day, so I can only really do nightly activities. I'll save that idea though for another time!

You shouldnt worry about not kissing; but yeah, go for it next time.

I'll try...

;425124"]It is better to shout "fire" than "rape" if you feel as you are going to be sexually attacked. People are more likely to respond because they will feel they are possibly in danger due to the fire, but shouting rape may make them feel they will enter danger by trying to help.

Sorry, the thread title made me think of that. Always useful advice though eh?

G'luck F'link. Hope it goes swimmingly. Charm and dazzle her with your grace just like Bloc Party suggest ;)

And yes, you should have kissed her.

Bloc Party own. I love that song.:)
And...damn, I know I should have, but I suck.
And you call yourself a stud?

In a completely unrelated topic, I didn't even speak to the girl I like and pulled on Friday today.

Why didn't she speak?

Charlie

23-04-2007, 08:30 PM

Why didn't she speak?

Well it wasn't the fact that she didn't speak to me... I only saw her today at a distance at break when she was with a big group of her friends. And I was across the (big) hall and couldn't be arsed walking over.

ShadowV7

23-04-2007, 08:33 PM

Nah I just meant like a picture of her face.
From us reading it(well I thought so anyway) that if she was pecking you on the check and that she gave you a peck on the lips,it shows affection cause she wouldn't do it if she didn't really like you,even though it's a peck,it shows that there is a spark there.

I mean friends woudn't just keep pecking each other now would they(if they do why don't I have any :heh:).

You might be thinking that your stil not sure if she likes you that way or not,but cause your feelings are in the way your judgement might be clouded a bit,from what i've seen,go for it dude :D

Charlie

23-04-2007, 08:35 PM

Also she couldn't speak cause Morias tongue was down her throat.

Wooft!

(yeah, I saw it before you edited it)

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 08:36 PM

Well it wasn't the fact that she didn't speak to me... I only saw her today at a distance at break when she was with a big group of her friends. And I was across the (big) hall and couldn't be arsed walking over.

Fool. :heh: (Says me)

Nah I just meant like a picture of her face.
From us reading it(well I thought so anyway) that if she was pecking you on the check and that she gave you a peck on the lips,it shows affection cause she wouldn't do it if she didn't really like you,even though it's a peck,it shows that there is a spark there.

I mean friends woudn't just keep pecking each other now would they(if they do why don't I have any :heh:).

You might be thinking that your stil not sure if she likes you that way or not,but cause your feelings are in the way your judgement might be clouded a bit,from what i've seen,go for it dude :D

Funny you say that, my friend uploaded some photos of us and she said that there seemed to be chemistry there. Ooooo.

DCK

23-04-2007, 08:36 PM

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 08:38 PM

Dunno Fiercy, I appreciate your openness, but you're telling the whole forum every single detail of your love life at the moment... Shouldn't you be, you know, keeping things private? For a bit?

Hell, I'd wonder what will happen if she googled your name. That'd be really awkward.

I need guidance! I make some pretty shitty decisions in my life and I just need some help on doing the right thing and stuff. Sounds daft, but I make some pretty rubbish decisions. Either that, or I'm too indecisive. (hence the not kissing)

Charlie

23-04-2007, 08:39 PM

Dunno Fiercy, I appreciate your openness, but you're telling the whole forum every single detail of your love life at the moment... Shouldn't you be, you know, keeping things private? For a bit?

Hell, I'd wonder what will happen if she googled your name. That'd be really awkward.

I think I would have to kill myself if anyone I know from school saw what I wrote on this site.

Good luck tomorrow, Jim.

DCK

23-04-2007, 08:40 PM

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 08:42 PM

I dunno what I need really...I need some sort of magical device that tells me when it is right to kiss a girl and when it isn't right.

ShadowV7

23-04-2007, 08:44 PM

Wooft!

(yeah, I saw it before you edited it)

What you talking about :heh:

I need guidance! I make some pretty shitty decisions in my life and I just need some help on doing the right thing and stuff. Sounds daft, but I make some pretty rubbish decisions. Either that, or I'm too indecisive. (hence the not kissing)

My intuition is good :heh: And if someone else said that aswell then i'm sure there is something there.
But seriously I wish you all the best for tomorrow though.

I think I would have to kill myself if anyone I know from school saw what I wrote on this site.

Good luck tomorrow, Jim.

I know someone from my school but he just decides to never come on *

But if there was a guy who came on and I wasn't aware at first and something clicked,then i'd avoid that person(especially if I didn't really like them)

Well his PC isn't exactly working I guess...

DCK

23-04-2007, 08:44 PM

Whenever you have a moment like that again, you could do a dramatic "WAIT!", and she'll turn around with hopeful eyes, and then run up to her and do your thing.

You know, like in the movies.

Charlie

23-04-2007, 08:47 PM

I dunno what I need really...I need some sort of magical device that tells me when it is right to kiss a girl and when it isn't right.

Speaking with my my experience behind me here ( :heh: ), just go for it, the worst she can do is pull away.

gaggle64

23-04-2007, 08:55 PM

Did somebody mention tractor beams?

Excelle

23-04-2007, 09:01 PM

I need guidance! I make some pretty shitty decisions in my life and I just need some help on doing the right thing and stuff. Sounds daft, but I make some pretty rubbish decisions. Either that, or I'm too indecisive. (hence the not kissing)

I think you're worried too much about the not-kissing. If she does like you (and it seems she does), then she'll give you another opportunity. Something to look forward to!

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 09:20 PM

I think you're worried too much about the not-kissing. If she does like you (and it seems she does), then she'll give you another opportunity. Something to look forward to!

You know, I've had some encounters with the female kind in the last few months, but this is the only one that is actually properly a date, and this is the only time where I've had the courage to do something about it after missing out the first time. We were going to go out tomorrow anyway, but I sorta said that we should make it a date, and she said ok.

Ok, I feel slightly better about this now.

Shorty

23-04-2007, 10:03 PM

Fierce_LiNk

23-04-2007, 10:07 PM

Flink I can't believe you complain about girl troubles... ever. You blatantly have no trouble getting on with girls, are constantly talking about new girls you like and are seeing. Compared to the troubles people around here are having... I haven't had a gf for over a year and it's been well over a month since I had any kind of "experience" - and here you are, a total pimp.

Ahh, but you see dude, I've only ever had 2 girlfriends, and they're both the only two girls I have ever kissed. Everyone else, including my recent encounters, they've either been unattainable or I just haven't had the confidence to just go for things. The last few weeks, I've been out quite a lot, including with girls by myself, but it's not been on a date...just as a friend thing. Although, it feels more than that sometimes, but it isn't.

Things just seem..strange, tbh. Like you say, I do have quite a lot of encounters. So, from the outset it doesn't seem that bad. But, to me, it's all about breaking down that barrier. I just can't seem to pluck up any courage.

uəʌəsʎɐɾ

23-04-2007, 10:10 PM

Well my advice would be just don't try to expect too much from it! You've had two serious girlfriends in, what, 20 years of life? There's no guarentee that every girl you kiss or have a date with will be dating potential.

Just... see how it goes! I mean, I'm a firm believer in "if it's meant to be, it will!" and all that malarky. you have to remember that it was weeks, nay, months before you fully knew who your girlfriend was, and to show her who you were. Just go with the flow. YO! Enjoy it while it lasts - while you're young and not 45+. Because that would be scary.

Gentleben

23-04-2007, 10:29 PM

just remember to always pull out and you will be fine. :laughing:

AeroScap

24-04-2007, 02:36 PM

Ahh, but you see dude, I've only ever had 2 girlfriends, and they're both the only two girls I have ever kissed. Everyone else, including my recent encounters, they've either been unattainable or I just haven't had the confidence to just go for things. The last few weeks, I've been out quite a lot, including with girls by myself, but it's not been on a date...just as a friend thing. Although, it feels more than that sometimes, but it isn't.

Things just seem..strange, tbh. Like you say, I do have quite a lot of encounters. So, from the outset it doesn't seem that bad. But, to me, it's all about breaking down that barrier. I just can't seem to pluck up any courage.

ahh snap....

That sounds stupidly like me! Xd

Like a punishment vodka shot , the less you think about it and it easier it gets!

My Buttons are Magic!

24-04-2007, 04:34 PM

well.. when i had my first date with my boyfriend i had only met him once before :S..... i was almost crapping myself cause i was so nervous

but we had talked on msn for about 4 months previous.. but still
first date of my life it was -

good luck with yours tho!
rememeber to offer to pay for everything - goes down a treat!

Fierce_LiNk

24-04-2007, 06:18 PM

T-minus 45 minutes. Ahhhh, getting panicky now.

I'm listening to Oasis to get me in the mood. It always gets me in a cheerful mood listening to WASSIS.

You gotta roll with it
You gotta take your time
You gotta say what ya say
Don't let anybody get in your way
Cos its all too much
For me to taaaaake.

Rummy

24-04-2007, 06:43 PM

Good luck dude, just stay relaxed and be your charming self. If the oppurtunity presents itself, go for the kiss, don't ask, don't hesitate, just go for it.
I'm sure everything will go great!

ShadowV7

24-04-2007, 06:44 PM

Last time I can say this,but good luck.Stay calm,be a gentlemen and tell us what happens!
I wish you all the best tonight show her that when she's with you she has a Flinking good time!

Aimless

24-04-2007, 06:46 PM

Where did you decide upon for a location?

If you're going to a restaurant, be sure not to cut off your own penis¹. People will stare.

¹Castrating other people is fine, obviously. Just remember to use the right knife if you're in a posh eatery.

Rummy

24-04-2007, 06:48 PM

Oh man, imagine if he just came back and posted in 3 days with a story of how he somehow cut off his penis. Worst date ever! Especially if you was gonna get some.

EEVILMURRAY

24-04-2007, 06:49 PM

Change her name, and make a topic about it.

Fierce_LiNk

24-04-2007, 07:00 PM

Cheers for the wise words, dudes.

Now, she's meeting me here because it's on the way to town. Hopefully she'll turn up, haha....

Later!

Cube

24-04-2007, 07:02 PM

Good luck and above all, have fun.

Fierce_LiNk

24-04-2007, 07:10 PM

She's gonna be a bit late, should be here by half past. No problem, means she's on the way!

Jordan

24-04-2007, 07:10 PM

*insert porno beat*
Got your fake mustache and spanner ready?

Cube

24-04-2007, 07:13 PM

She's gonna be a bit late, should be here by half past. No problem, means she's on the way!

Enough time to finish of th N-Eu.....

all right, I'll drop it

AeroScap

24-04-2007, 09:16 PM

/ nando /

24-04-2007, 11:14 PM

rememeber to offer to pay for everything - goes down a treat!

..actually paying would have went down even better :laughing:

There was no need to offer at all though, really :nono:

All the best, Fierce!

Fierce_LiNk

24-04-2007, 11:56 PM

Ok, well that went pretty damn well!

She arrived at mine, and I showed her around my place, and then we left to go to town. Went to Pablos, which is a place where they do pizza, pastas, lasagnas, etc. Had food, shared a desert and chatted for pretty much the entire time. There didn't feel like a shortage of things to talk about.

After then, went to a bar across the road. We held hands whilst we walked, which was pretty nice. Got in there, chatted and drank, and things were going alright.

Then, she said she had better had go to bed, as she had an early start tomorrow (as do I). So, we were walking outside, hand in hand, and I stopped her for a second, and kissed her on the cheek. Then, turned her to face me, kissed her again on the cheek, and then properly on the lips, and she kissed back. RESULT!

We waited for a bus, but it didn't arrive. So, in the meantime, more kissing ensured, and we went back to my place and I called her a taxi. She's just left now, and I've been on the phone to a mate spilling the beans about the evening.

So, yeah! I went for it, and it paid off. Fuck yeah!
There will also be a second date, as well.

Caris

24-04-2007, 11:58 PM

Awwwww Flinks!

Marshmellow

25-04-2007, 12:07 AM

NICE! Hope the second date goes just as well... If not better;)

Tphi

25-04-2007, 12:11 AM

I dunno what I need really...I need some sort of magical device that tells me when it is right to kiss a girl and when it isn't right.

Haha, if someone invented this they'd be a very, very, very rich man!

Seriously though, awesome result! Well done dude : peace:

Jordan

25-04-2007, 12:26 AM

'Gratz.
Just don't mention you're an staff member on a forum. That works with very few girls ie: Letty :D

AeroScap

25-04-2007, 01:11 AM

I'm so proud of you flinks! *cries*

Colin

25-04-2007, 01:38 AM

Just read about your night. Nice one Fierce, hope all goes well.

And the thing about not knowing when to kiss, is prob my biggest problem with girls n all. Should sort that out maybe, and just lick everyone.

EEVILMURRAY

25-04-2007, 02:00 PM

When you're out on the second date, nothing says third date more than asking if she likes doggie.

ShadowV7

25-04-2007, 03:21 PM

I'm so proud of you flinks! *cries*

Our little Flink has grown up so much hasn't he,proud of ya :D

Glad to hear it went so well.What did I say,she liked you that way aswell and no worries.The end result sounds ace aswell so well done.

Hope you enjoy your second date just as much.But you deserve all the best from this. :)

Fierce_LiNk

25-04-2007, 04:25 PM

Cheers for the love, guys.

EEVIL: I sure hope Doggie Style is on the cards.

She said that I shouldn't have been so nervous (cos I told her that I was caught up in two minds about kissing her, especially on Saturday), so yeah...I guess I'm sorted now.

Second date, here we come!