I feel like shit

[Herr Dark Wolf]

Don't know how to describe how I feel really. There's this girl who is incredibly fine who I fancy like hell but I have no chance. Heck, I've never even spoken to her. You see, I'm not really that popular at my school, there's about 18 people who I regularly talk to and quite a few of them I would consider quite close freinds. I'm not unpopular because I'm annoying it's because I don't talk to people. I just feel really nervous about it and have no idea what to talk about. I have hardly any confidence in myself, and even my friends have pointed out to me that when we talk I hardly look at them.

I have no female friends, and I never have since primary school. I just feel incredibly nervous about the opposite sex and have no idea what to talk about. Sometimes in the class I join in the conversation, and when I'm talking to that girl or she to me I always look away, as if I shouldn't be looking at them.

This particular girl then, we're in "houses" (4 different buildings) and she's in the same one as me in the year below. The problem is is that I've not talked to her since she came and if I do now she will be suspicious. There's a TV room she's often in, which I could go in and just chill during break, but I never usually go in there. I have no idea how I should approach her for the first time either. I probably have no chance anyway because she's becoming quite a famous actress.

Any ideas?

[Mr. Bananagrabber]

Man, I know how you feel. Yesterday I noticed I needed new shoes.

[Goron_3]

quick question...how old are you? I'll give you a response after that because it would help.

Anyway, cheer up mate :)

[EEVILMURRAY]

Take in a pack of Minstrels and offer her one. Then the conversation will flow.

[Eddage]

Man, I know how you feel. Yesterday I noticed I needed new shoes.

"Woke up cold one tuesday*,
i'm looking tired and feeling quite sick,
i felt like there was something missing in my day to day life,
so i quickly opened the wardrobe,
pulled out some jeans and a T-Shirt that seemed clean,
topped it off with a pair of old shoes,
that were ripped around the seams,
and i thought these shoes just don't suit me."


I have nothing productive to say... sorry.



*I am aware that yesterday wasn't Tuesday...

[Herr Dark Wolf]

16. Sorry, I forgot to mention.

[Gaijin von Snikbah]

Theres no shame in not hiding the truth about you being interested in someone. The opposite might have a bigger chance of causing disaster.

[Konfucius]

This particular girl then, we're in "houses" (4 different buildings) and she's in the same one as me in the year below. The problem is is that I've not talked to her since she came and if I do now she will be suspicious.

But if your interested in her isn't it ok if she gets "suspicious"?
Your quite lucky if you can actually meet her that easily. Just go to the TV room with the excuse that your TV is broken or something (and if you don't want to lie, pour water into your TV) so you won't raise any suspicion.

[Herr Dark Wolf]

TV room is where people watch TV at school, so I don't think that excuse will work.

Actually, I think I know what you mean.

[Daft]

Just go for it, talk to her (about anything, it probably won't matter as long as you get her attention), don't think about the consequences!

Fear is the soul's prison!!!

[hobbzinio]

man u use msn??? give us an add, im sick as fuck with flu and unable to go out, so im up for givin some advice out

[Herr Dark Wolf]

Yeah, I do: john harry jacobs at hotmail dot com

edit: MSN isn't working for me..

[Hellfire]

Do drugs. That helps.

[Goron_3]

here's the way i see it:

You remind me of me a few years ago. i didn't really talk to the opposite sex and i had a small group of friends. I found it really hard to talk to girls especially because i felt scared and shy, and i got worried that they would dislike me.

Now, when i was in year 10 it occured to me that you only live once and you should live life to the fullest (i owe that to Rocky..best film ever!), so i decided to, though i was shy, just be outgoing and talk to girls and new people (at this point i had never had a girlfriend and was only close to a few people). Now, what you need to do is just relax and try not to be so shy; it might sound hard at first because you're not used to it byt it will get easier. i did it and now i have a lot more friends, can talk easily infront of people and even got a wonderful girlfriend.

We're all different, and i can't just imagine you going up to her and telling her you really like her (because you barely talk to her). Instead, try just saying 'hi' and give her a smile when you see her. After a while, she'll start saying the same when she sees you around school, and you can try talking to her. Also, girls LOVE confidence, so don't seem shy and embarrassed; instead, hold your head high and just believe in what you say :)

[Slaggis]

i have the same problem (well kinda)

Theres a girl i like so much but she has just got a new boyfriend, i know she used to like me too ( not too long ago), we have become really good friends, she tells me alot, i do the same, we also flirt a hell of a alot, but i cant bring myself to ask her out..(she knows i fancy her which is killing me more + she only started flirting with me after i told her)

Does she like me to? Lol i need help!

(i am going to a prti of hers in a few weeks, maybe when we get a little drunk i should talk to her, were both much more open then lol)

[Fields]

Heck, I've never even spoken to her.
Wait, did I read that right? You've never even spoken to her, yet you're posting on an internet forum declaring your undying love for her? Lol. This is a silly schoolboy crush, get over it and get on with your fucking life.

[Dyson]

"Woke up cold one tuesday*,
i'm looking tired and feeling quite sick,
i felt like there was something missing in my day to day life,
so i quickly opened the wardrobe,
pulled out some jeans and a T-Shirt that seemed clean,
topped it off with a pair of old shoes,
that were ripped around the seams,
and i thought these shoes just don't suit me."


I have nothing productive to say... sorry.



*I am aware that yesterday wasn't Tuesday...

I said, hey
I put my new shoes on and suddenly everything's alright

Right? That awesome song thing.

[Eddage]

Right? That awesome song thing.

New Shoes by Paolo Nutini, love it.

[Dyson]

New Shoes by Paolo Nutini, love it.

Yeeeesssss, it's fantastic.

[The Bard]

Don't be a muppet, how can you like a girl you've never talked to before? You seem fine coming on here and talking to people, so don't think that there's a different way to communicate just because they can see you, just look em in the eye and say what you want, if nothing comes into mind, then don't worry, the most everyday, pointless things can be conversation starters, all you have to do is stop having this ideal conception of girls are like. It helps, of course, if your friends are willing to introduce you to their friends, and invite you out, but honestly, they're not going to give a toss either way unless you earn their respect and that means, however uncomfortable it may be, you look them in the eye for a little while and talk naturally. If you find it hard, it'll take some balls to do it, but you're gonna have to do it at some point or another.

[Shino]

Maybe you'll find confort in knowing you're not alone.

[Calza]

Jesus -.- I'm in the exactly same boat as you.

I find it really hard to make conversation, I mean I can talk about pretty much anything but when I'm next to a girl that I like... *silence*

There is actually a couple of girls that I really like but by the time I've thought of something to say she is already gone.

I'm not really going to give any advice because well I can't but at least you know your not the only one struggling.

[welsh_gamer]

My problem is that when i chat up girls, we become too close, and end up being 'just friends', sigh. So i have an army of girls around me when I'm out and about usually, which can be slightly annoying, as some people then think I'm gay! I am in Love with one of my best friends too, but I kno nothing will happen, so I just get on with it. It sucks being single for almost 2 years now....sniff, and I hardly pull birds in clubs either.....*reaches for medicene cabinet*

[Charlie]

How often do you go out with your mates? The more you go out, the more you'll have to talk about. Even a simple "how was your weekend?" is better than nothing, and when she asks you the same you'll have a better reply than "I just sat at the computer" which is rather boring. You'll be able to say you went into town with your friends and went to the cinema or something. Then you'll be able to branch the conversation into what you saw, what you thought of it.

Girls love talking. Ask loads of questions and just smile, nod and say "yeah" occaisionally to show you're still alive.

[mcj metroid]

Wait, did I read that right? You've never even spoken to her, yet you're posting on an internet forum declaring your undying love for her? Lol. This is a silly schoolboy crush, get over it and get on with your fucking life.

well that's great advice


You obviously have very low self-esteem. I have that sometimes. But you must talk to her and get to know her.For all you know you might not like her at all. It's not all about looks you know

[AshMat]

Girls are a confusing and difficult type to deal with. Getting one is the hardest part, especially if you don't even talk to her you're starting from scratch. Although the one plus side of that is that you're not in the so called "friend zone" that many of us have fallen into on our pitiless escapades to get a member of the opposite sex to get with us so we can make booty time.

In other words, just talk to the girl. It may be difficult, hell, it is difficult, but you get nowhere from not trying.

[Rummy]

Wait, did I read that right? You've never even spoken to her, yet you're posting on an internet forum declaring your undying love for her? Lol. This is a silly schoolboy crush, get over it and get on with your fucking life.

'Fancy like hell' hardly sounds like declaring his undying love, I say fuck off if you aint gonna be helpful, or at least tactful. No wonder Bard hates you, you're an idiot!
At the same time, Fields kind of has a point, I was that age once and I was kind of the same.
Here's the skinny, you need to get some magic courage, all of you in 'a similar situation', and just go upto whoever that girl is and talk to her/ask her out/whatever you want. I bold that all, because there is no exception in your situation, there are no exceptional circumstances making it different to anyone else. Go on, next time you see her, talk to her! Say hello, start a conversation about something general.
If you don't, you'll get nowhere, you have absolutely zero chance, and I mean that, 0% chance, not even a slight sliver of hope, of getting anywhere with that girl. Admittedly, if you talk to her/ask her out/whatever, you don't have a 100% chance of getting somewhere, but you have a much greater chance than if you don't do anything at all.
You also need to be fully prepared to accept the fact you might get nowhere in order to get somewhere, otherwise you'll never try. If it turns out nothing happens, so what? You've lost nothing and gained an experience, which is more than you had before!

As for Herr Dark Wolf, if you're struggling for conversation talk about whatever the hell is on TV! If you don't know what it is she's watching, ask her!

Well, thats my take on things anyway, do what you wish. The fact of the matter is, I'm not gonna convince you to do anything you don't really want to, nobody on here is, you're just all stupiudly hoping that somehow this'll solve your problems, when the only real solution to them is written 4 paragraphs above.

[Charlie]

As for Herr Dark Wolf, if you're struggling for conversation talk about whatever the hell is on TV! If you don't know what it is she's watching, ask her!

That's a really good point. If you've never spoken to her before, its going to be weird striking up a conversation with her. I think the best thing to do would be to sit down and ask her what it is, then say "k thx m8" (or similar) and maybe a comment about the programme and just leave it as that. She may want to carry on talking about it, if so, score, if not don't worry. Say hi to her the next time you see her too.

[Fields]

'Fancy like hell' hardly sounds like declaring his undying love
...which I guess is sort of the point I'm making. I see loads of girls I fancy everyday. I don't become so obsessed that I post about them on the internet.

[Ramar]

Although the one plus side of that is that you're not in the so called "friend zone" that many of us have fallen into on our pitiless escapades to get a member of the opposite sex to get with us so we can make booty time.

Gah, don't remind me of the friend zone.. Its like a pit and they've cut the rope ladder out, I need either a small miracle or inspector gadget to fall in to get me out.

[Zechs Merquise]

Don't know how to describe how I feel really. There's this girl who is incredibly fine who I fancy like hell but I have no chance. Heck, I've never even spoken to her. You see, I'm not really that popular at my school, there's about 18 people who I regularly talk to and quite a few of them I would consider quite close freinds. I'm not unpopular because I'm annoying it's because I don't talk to people. I just feel really nervous about it and have no idea what to talk about. I have hardly any confidence in myself, and even my friends have pointed out to me that when we talk I hardly look at them.

I have no female friends, and I never have since primary school. I just feel incredibly nervous about the opposite sex and have no idea what to talk about. Sometimes in the class I join in the conversation, and when I'm talking to that girl or she to me I always look away, as if I shouldn't be looking at them.

This particular girl then, we're in "houses" (4 different buildings) and she's in the same one as me in the year below. The problem is is that I've not talked to her since she came and if I do now she will be suspicious. There's a TV room she's often in, which I could go in and just chill during break, but I never usually go in there. I have no idea how I should approach her for the first time either. I probably have no chance anyway because she's becoming quite a famous actress.

Any ideas?

Dead easy mate, just instill the idea that the worst thing that can happen is she doesn't like you. Whatever embarrassment you'll feel at the time will mean nothing in the long run. Just pull yourself toegther lad and go for it.

[Herr Dark Wolf]

I got off the school bus at the same time as she did. I was walking with her, I was well nervous and didn’t know what to talk about. Then we started to have a well good conversation. Then I woke up :( I actually had this dream last night :( I thought it was real, then I was like, "ahh.. shit!"

[Zechs Merquise]

I got off the school bus at the same time as she did. I was walking with her, I was well nervous and didn’t know what to talk about. Then we started to have a well good conversation. Then I woke up :( I actually had this dream last night :( I thought it was real, then I was like, "ahh.. shit!"

Look, just talk to her and stop being a wimp. Life is about shaping situations, not letting them shape you. Just open your mouth and say hi, honestly, what is the worst that can actually happen?

[ViPeR]

Count yourself lucky you're not dealing with adult relationships yet. They're a right barrel of laughs... NOOT!. As for advice, well I was in the same situation when I was in school. Didn't help that I was fairly overweight so naturally I didn't think any girls would be interested, and i'd be right anyway they weren't. I know how hard that first step is though even if most people on here don't. I gained my confidence through getting fit and making myself feel better. Just be proud of who you are and find something good and unique about yourself no one else has. If you get an opportunity to talk to this girl take it. If you get rejected it's not the end of the world, it's life and it happens.

[Herr Dark Wolf]

Yeah, I'm not overweight or anything. I've just been working out and this morning went running with my Dad and played a bit of footy. Going to play tennis this afternoon.

I used to have quite a big belly but now it's all gone and I'm thin. :yay:

[EEVILMURRAY]

If you don't like Minstrels. Maltesers are normally a hit with the ladies.